11 Best Bondage Toys for Ultimate BDSM Play (& How I Enjoyed Them)

Those kinky bedroom moments deserve to be pleasurable. And what better way of avoiding boring sex than embracing BDSM. Whether you’re an expert or a starter, BDSM bondage gear offers endless opportunities to explore life fantasies.

To get the most out of your fetishes and games, you’ll need to incorporate suitable bondage adult toys. Herein, you’ll find the ten best bondage sex toys and my personal experiences shared. This list explores the best BDSM gear that satisfies your sensations and desires.

11 Best Bondage Toys (& My Experience Shared)

1. Fifty Shades of Grey Bed Restraint Kit: Best Couple Bondage Toy

Whether it’s Mr. Grey tonight or Anastasia Steele, you and your partner can play either character with this bondage kit themed around the erotic book and film series by E.L. James.

Perhaps, you like the idea of seducing your boss.

Or do you desire more of the thrill of sex in the office? 

Then bend her over at the desk using the kit’s mysterious blindfold and cuff her wrists to the chair.

He can simply show up in just a tie and she may as well be the naughty “intern” next door.

For beginners, this is the ideal product to take charge and indulge your partner.

It’s a set comprising a blindfold, the harness, ankle cuffs, and wrist cuffs.

It comes as a sturdy yet comfortable restraint system. 

Not to mention, the cuffs are padded to create a fuzzy feeling around your ankles and wrists. The cuffs were also large enough to fit my beefy partner.

The adjustable straps can be discreetly placed beneath mattresses to create the ultimate bondage haven.

Since it doesn’t connect to the bed frame, I don’t have to worry about my bed collapsing. It’s suitable for any bed size, be it single or king size.

Plus, the blindfold is sleek, soft, and creates a total blackout for complete submission.

2. DOMINIX Leather Collar with Nipple Clamps: Best Self-bondage Toy

This leather collar with nipple clamps isn’t for everyone. If you are bothered with a bit of neck strangulation and a pinch to your tits, then this product isn’t for you.

It comes as a 2-in-1 self-bondage toy. You get a collar for your neck and clamps for your nipples.

The collar is made from high-quality leather that is durable and will go the extra mile in your BDSM bondage journey.

I found the collar comfy despite its rugged look. You can wear it for extended periods. 

Its 15-hole buckle fastening allows you to create the perfect choke on your neck.

The chains have a nice weight. They pull subtly on your nipples without being too heavy.

The clamps were a little bit hard to attach to my tiny nipples, but they stuck effortlessly once my nipples were erect.

Once in place, the clamps harden your nipples and improve their sensitivity.

In the end, you get the maximum bondage pleasure during self-play.

The clamps’ adjustable nature ensures easy removal when things get uncomfortable.

3. Little Devil Electric Shock Collar: Best for Long Distance Lovers

This little creature is a game-changer!

It’s a remote controllable electric shock collar, which means your sub can be anywhere in the world and you will still be able to have full control of her/him!

Don’t be fooled by its cute design, this collar is equipped with strong yet safe pulse voltage technology, which delivers memorable punishment without harming your sub.

It is USB changeable and the battery will work for 5 straight hours after each charge. This means you and your sub can have a long training session.

You can lock the collar to the sub thanks to a padlock.

Also, the six-axis gyroscope allows you have some advanced play, including a "Stand still" mode, which detects any motions. If your sub moves, electric shocks will be given automatically.

You can also enjoy an "On all fours" play thanks to the height detector.

What can this mode do? Basically, your sub is not allowed to exceed a specific height decided by YOU (you can decide the height with the app).

If the sub fails the mission, he/she will be punished with electric shocks.

Did I mention the app is totally free and it works for both IOS or Android users?

4. Silky Tie-Ups: Light Bondage Toys

Silky tie-ups allow you to enjoy the softer side of BDSM bondage.

These luxuriously supple bands are ideal for couples who need an introduction to restraint games.

Each sash is crafted from soft synthetic fabric that slides smoothly on the skin and creates infinite pleasures.

With a multifunctional design, you can use them in any way you feel.

You could use them as blindfolds for romantic sensory deprivation or loop around ankles and wrists for benign restraint.

You can easily attach and remove the loops and continue dominating or submitting to your partner.

The tie-ups come discreetly packed—no one will know you’re headed for a steamy night’s session.

5. Bondage Boutique Faux Snakeskin Hogtie Set: Best for Anal Play

Do you like to hear her squirm?

Whether or not she wants it, force your sub down with this high-end hogtie in snakeskin. Then while she begs for more, penetrate her anal deep and slow.

It’s all about control (and she knows she likes it).

This hogtie set allows you to achieve a full-body restraint and enjoy anal play to the maximum.

It’s perfect for experienced partners who know how to use buckles. The setup might be a tad complicated, for starters.

The two sets of cuffs are easily distinguishable. You’re able to identify which goes to the ankles and wrists quickly.

The cuffs are comfortable to wear, meaning you could play for hours. And since they are easily detachable, you can easily customize them to fit the moment.

The D-rings on the cuffs allows you to combine this toy with other accessories. It comes with solid metal clasps and buckles. 

Once set, there is no wiggling out. You’ll be left begging for more.

The dark-red and gold combination creates a feeling of luxury and something unusual from the typical black bondage color.

My babe personally enjoys the look of this particular set on me, especially after he convinces me to lie on my stomach and asks me to trust him.

The thing is, when it comes to him having full reign over me, he tends to abuse his power.

Yet, at the same time, he’s so strong and demanding that I get turned on by my relinquishing control as he chokes and f*ks me good.

6. Bondage Boutique Seduce Me Bondage Kit: Best Bondage Kit

This bondage gear consists of wrist cuffs, ankle cuffs, under-bed strapping, a flogger, blindfold, and ball gag.

With this bondage kit, you can look forward to endless restraint possibilities.

The kit’s aesthetic appeal is provided by the ross gold color and faux leather.

The blindfold, cuffs, and gag straps are padded with faux fur to deliver maximum comfort during bondage sessions.

Whenever I squirm and scream with pleasure, my partner always restrains me with the ball gag. It fits in my mouth, although it is bigger than other gags.

The blindfold creates a total blackout—you won’t be able to guess what your partner is doing next.

Although I enjoy the blindfold’s intensity, it tends to come loose on many occasions.

One piece of this set that suits my fetish is the flogger. Despite it being small, it can pack a punch. I relish its punishment and turn up red on several occasions.

7. Talea Spreader Bar: Best Hardcore Bondage Toy

Get your hopes tied up, twisted, bent, and plastered with this spreader bar for hardcore fucking.

Compared to other bondage handcuff toys, I think the Talea spreader bar makes them all look ‘vanilla,’ thanks to its unique large-rod design that acts as a sex-position support.

The foamy, pillow-like toy has cuffs on both ends to tie to her ankles or wrists as you pound her from behind and even upside down.

One crazy position I’d recommend is the ‘carnal clutch’, which is when I hang in front of my partner with my legs around his neck and my ankles are cuffed to the bar. 

He’s also holding only onto the toy and not my waist or arms as he fucks me.

So, the huge toy isn’t a pillow as I initially presumed. It lets you master more (and new) creative sex positions than regular hogties and ensures each position is as intense as the last.

The Liberator Talea Spreader Bar is an excellent gear for enjoying multiple bondage positions without sacrificing your body.

It’s great for curious couples seeking to spice up things and to individuals with physical limitations.

This restraint tool acts as a spreader and a sex position bolster.

The cuff connectors at both ends are created from soft velvet material and come with velcro fastenings. 

I was able to wrap them around my slim wrists with little problem and liked the smooth feel on my skin.

The cuffs also leave no marks on my wrists and ankles after pleasure sessions.

This spreader bar isn’t intimidating at first sight. The bolster cushioning feels smooth but is firm against the body.

You won’t feel the central PVC rod during domineering sessions.

Overall, the main idea is that as the bar physically comforts her in any position, she’s actually sacrificing her emotional comfort for physical pain - one she secretly enjoys. Trust me.

8. "THE REMOULDED" Nine-piece Bondage Set

I wouldn’t mind following some orders and disciplines when I have on this elegant bondage set that serves for training and impact play.

This set includes:

• 1 long plate
• 2 short plates
• 4 leather straps
• 2 connection buckles

You can mix and match the accessories in multiple ways for different restraint play. 

This Upko set has creative design and gorgeous finish, which allows you and your partner to enjoy luxurious bondage sessions.

You can buckle on any of the holes in different angles when directing your submissive partner.

Alternatively, you can use the leather straps separately for ankles, waists, or even as a choker.

Wear this kind of choker on nights out to provocatively hint at bondage play.

The plates are made from stainless steel, meaning they are unlikely to rust.

Some suggested playful guide includes:

• T-shape application, which can be ideal for ass-up postures, ready to be spanked.
• X-shape application, which is a classic binding shape makes your sub fully exposed to you
• Square-shape application, which can turn your sub into a small table - perfect for a training session

Other than all the fun play, the Italian leather also gives that overall elegance and sexy allure.

9. Kinklab Bondage Rope: Best for Breast Bondage

The Kinklab bondage rope is a versatile restraint that can fulfill many tasks. 

It can be cut to make leashes and tethers or used in full. It’s ideal for individuals who wish to experiment with breast bondage.

It’s made from nylon to provide the needed strength during intense breast bondage. The rope’s super smooth texture won’t bruise your skin or breasts.

Unlike cotton ropes, tying and untying this rope during bondage play is seamless.

Due to its slickness, sometimes knots slip out. You’ll need to double tie these knots whenever you have a serious sexual session.

You can clean it easily by wrapping it in a lingerie bag and passing it through a wash. Regular cleaning may affect the texture and strength of the rope.

At 25-foot-long, this rope can be used for all craftiness you can think of. Besides breast play, you could use it to do a hogtie or create a kinky anchor point.

10. Sportsheets Neck and Wrist Restraint: Best Lesbian Bondage Toy

The Sportsheets Neck and Wrist Restraint tool is ideal for BDSM practitioners who seek an upper-body restraint that will firmly hold.

For lesbians, it offers the best way to restrain the wrists and neck of a partner. You can dominate your lover by securing her arms to the front, back, or by using the hogtie technique.

It doesn’t feel scary and doesn’t offer extreme restraining. These features make it an excellent bondage gear for BDSM novices.

The collar and cuffs come with inner foam padding to provide comfort.

You can easily put on the velcro collar, and once it’s in place, it fastens firmly.

The handcuffs are also velcro and provide tight restrictions no matter the struggle.

The D rings provide the versatility to try out different positions.

11. Cock and Ball CBT Pillory: Best Hardcore Gay Bondage Toy

The Cock and Ball CBT Pillory is the best tool for punishing your gay partner’s balls.

It’s a must-have tool for individuals into CBT, restraining, submission, and sensual play.

The crusher can be adjusted with wingnuts. This allows you to exert the crushing force you wish on your sub’s testicles.

The stand is adjustable. You can fix it at the perfect height to torment your slave.

It can also be split easily into four pieces for discreet storage and travel.

It comes with attachment points that can be used to cuff your partner’s wrists and ankles.

It allows you to restrain your partner in a standing position and play with his balls for as long as you like.

How to Use Bondage Toys? (& My Experience Shared)

I personally lust for the adrenaline rush from a good bondage play and boil deep inside from being dominated.

Before any bondage session, my partner and I usually set boundaries that cannot be crossed.

Bondage sex also doesn’t always have to involve new or mind-blowing sex positions. Albeit, he should blow my mind in the end (and me to him).

I’d recommend trying out the classic spoon position for light bondage play, the knees-to-chest position for possibly rough bondage, and the snow angel position for kicks, giggles, and squirts.

As my partner and I are continuously open to experimenting with various sex toys, only a few can compare to the Seduce Me Bondage Kit. Nothing gets him hard or me wet when we play either boss-to-secretary or daddy-to-babysitter.

Sometimes we pull out our old bdsm toys to combine with a bondage set.

For example, my boyfriend especially thinks I ‘take it’ best when he has my wrists tied up behind my back.

Then, he forces me to choke on his balls - all the while being blindfolded and held by a leash.

Alternatively, I can give him a blowjob while lying down on top of him but upside down.

Meanwhile, he is eating me out since my ass is on his face, or using my favorite ‘rabbit’ vibrator to hit all the right spots. A win-win, no?

We mainly use it as a restraint system. The large O-ring goes beneath my mattress while the straps emerge from the sides to clip my handcuffs.

My partner always takes care of the cuffs to my ankles. When everything is set, he takes over.

Bondage play can get messy if no limits are discussed before sessions. Always set limits and boundaries before exploring different styles.

Another way to level up your bondage play is to integrate vibrators, especially remote or app-controllable sex toys such as Lovense Lush 3 and We-vibe Vector.

For example, the free Lovense app that with Lush 3 allows you to turn on the vibration at a pre-set time. 

Imagine being bound, gagged and blindfolded while having the Lush 3 inserted. Your dom has full control of the toy, and the vibration from the toy can hit you at any time.

I am getting excited just by thinking about this scenario!

Final Thoughts

For every bondage experience level, there is always an accompanying bondage toy.

You don’t need the whole collection. Only go for the toys that meet your bondage needs.

With our list of best bondage sex toys, you can open a world of possibilities. Have fun!