HOW TO USE SEX TOYS? Time to Please Yourself and Your Partner

Whether you're searching for tools to heighten your at-home personal play or you're looking to spice up your relationship with some kinkier public play, learning how to use sex toys is helpful all-around.

However, there is more to consider than just what shape and size the toys come in.

It's also important to understand which shops you can trust and how to distinguish body-safe materials.

Keep reading to find out more about the potential benefits sex toys provide, where to buy safe options that best satisfy your needs and how to use sex toys properly by yourself or with a special friend.

WHY SHOULD WOMEN USE SEX TOYS?

While men tend to have an easier solo session just using their hands, women often experience more trouble reaching that climactic moment with their fingers alone.

To make things easier, sex toys allow you to target your sensitive spots with the intensity you desire.

Some vibrators target clitoral stimulation while others shake your G-spot with satisfying sensations.

In addition to the physical pleasure they offer, sex toys also give women peace of mind when it comes to understanding their bodies and preferences.

Instead of a toy replacing your partner, it merely makes your future sex life more informed and tailored to your needs.

Moreover, sex toys help with your health. If you are experiencing a loss of libido or vulvar pain, vibrators offer relief with their vibrations acting as a comforting massager.

This soothes the area and allows you to drift into a more relaxing night's sleep afterward.

Finally, sex toys often act as kegel exercisers. Performing kegel exercises helps to strengthen your pelvic muscles and avoid issues in your bladder, uterus, small intestine and rectum.

On the sexier side, kegel exercises also make your vagina feel tighter and intensify squeezing sensations right before an orgasm.

GENERAL TIPS ABOUT SEX TOYS

While you're probably wondering how to use sex toys, it is first important to understand your preferences and how to best protect your health. After all, using the wrong toy will leave you unsatisfied and possibly in pain. To keep your experience pleasurable, follow these general tips below.

1. Consider Your Preferences When Choosing A Toy

First, when purchasing a sex toy, you should consider which area of your body you want to target.

Like we mentioned above, some are best for clitoral stimulation, while others positively play with your G-spot. In addition, there are sex toys designed for anal play and options to use as a couple.

It really comes down to determining your personal preferences and finding the ideal toy to suit those needs.

Be honest with yourself and delve deep into what really gets you going. If certain kinks are keeping you from an in-person sex shop experience, head online sex toy shops where you can pick in private.

2. Make Your Purchases From A Trusted Online Sex Shop.

However, the common problem associated with glass sex toys is they are too firm and do not conform to your unique body.

With this in mind, your search may lead you in the direction of a non-porous toy that is a bit softer and more flexible.

Silicone is considered the safe bendy option that allows the toy to twist to all your hot spots, while still being easy-to-clean. However, be cautious of products attempting to imitate silicone.

Some manufacturers include phthalates to make plastic products more flexible. This is not only toxic to your body but also bad for the environment, giving off carcinogens and harming the reproductive system.

Small amounts of phthalates pass toxicity for thin shower curtains and wallpaper.

However, the amount needed for thick sex toy materials is far too much for constant contact with your body, especially in your most sensitive areas.

4. Remember Some Toys Have Accessories

Finally, don't forget about the accessories that go along with the sex toy you're purchasing.

In addition to the product itself, there may be add-ons sold separately that are required or helpful for use.

This especially applies to wand massager, such as the famous Hitachi wand and the ultra strong doxy.

If you get a wand that is attachable with any regular third-party heads, it can easily and wonderfully expand your orgasmic experience. 

5. Batteries and Chargers

While higher-end vibrators operate with a charger, some of the cheaper choices call for changeable batteries.

If this is the case, it's best to buy your batteries at the same time you buy the toy.

After all, certain brands of vibrators won't operate using normal alkaline batteries.

Skipping out on the suggested batteries for your toy to save a few bucks, may leave you with a dildo instead of a vibrator the first time you attempt to use it.

Even with the options that power up with standard alkaline batteries, in doing so, you can harm and reduce motor life.

Therefore, it's best to stick with the heavy-duty battery options to experience the best results.

6. Recommended Lubricants

Getting yourself wet and ready-to-go naturally isn't always easy and can be time-consuming for some women.

To make matters worse, when doing things yourself, your partner isn't around to engage in foreplay.

This rushed combination often sends solo sessions into dry and even painful situations.

To eliminate the foreplay factor, massaging lubricant on to your sensitive areas beforehand will make the initial insertion process more comfortable. 

Many women consciously use lube while having vaginal or anal play, however, it is easily to forget applying lube when you're stimulating the clit. 

Believe me, lubricant can be a very friendly when your clit is sensitive.

Besides, if you play to have multiple orgasms in a raw, it's better to apply lube on your clit from the beginning so that your clitoris won't be overly-stimulated along the process.

There are three types of lubricants: water-based, silicone-based and oil-based. First off, water-based lubes have the most versatility by working with all sex toys and being easy to clean. They offer the best option when using a lubricant with sex toys.

Next, silicone-based lubes are best for sensitive skin because they are hypoallergenic.

However, silicone-based lubes cannot be used with silicone toys because it deteriorates the surface over time and causes bacteria to form. This makes them not always ideal for use with sex toys.

Finally, oil-based lubricants offer the slickest surface and don't need to keep being reapplied.

While they are capable of use with sex toys, they are also the hardest to clean, the messiest on your bedding and the most likely to cause infections.

Besides, oil-based lubricants can damage latex material, which means it goes against most condoms. 

7. Maintain and Clean Sex Toy

Last but not least, when thinking about sex toys, you shouldn't just consider what you'll need while it's in-use.

It's also important to think about how you are going to clean it in between uses to keep yourself healthy, infection-free and long-lasting.

Depending on your preferred cleaning style, (online) sex shops offer sprays, foaming cleansers and wipes to keep your toys fresh.

For waterproof sex toys, you can simply clean them with warm soapy water and then just rinse it thoroughly. But for non-waterproof sex toys, I think the cleaners can be a more risk-free option. 

Always make sure that you dry the sex toy well before storing it because it can largely increase usage life of a toy. This especially applies to electric toys. 

HOW TO USE SEX TOYS BY YOURSELF?

Now comes the fun part, learning how to use sex toys for some at-home play. Check out these tips for individual use below.

1. Treat yourself with specific stimulation.

Depending on which area you're looking to stimulate, certain toys are better at getting the job done. This includes options designed for clitoral or G-spot stimulation and even anal play.