I was with my girlfriends, enjoying a tea talk. One of us suddenly asked, “Has any of you used a vibrator in public?” There was a moment of silence after this question was raised. But none of us were shy about our sex life, so, that topic got wild that afternoon and we all shared our dirty little stories.
We were all so creative about public-play and that afternoon, I am pretty sure all of us were a bit turned on by the talk. It’s a shame not to share our public-play experience with you. That’s why I am writing this article.
Many new experimenters can be under-prepared for public play. Sexy movie clips don’t tell you how you should prepare yourself in order to not get hurt, not get caught and gain ultimate pleasure from public sex toy play. I will explain all these, along with sharing all the naughty things my girlfriends and I did in public.
4 Types of Public Play
1.Self-Play with External Stimulation. It means you anticipate in a public play by yourself. You can use a vibrator to stimulate nipples or most likely, your clitoris. Make sure not putting the vibrator on the most sensitive angle during clit stimulation. This can make you orgasm way too fast. To extend the play and pleasure, I like to let the vibe stimulate the surround circle of the clit or the labia part. The vibration will spread to your clit – it’ll be pleasant, yet, not too intense.
2.Self-Play with internal Stimulation. It means a vibrator will stay in your vagina when you are in public. Make sure to choose an egg/bullet vibrator that can stay inside stable and comfortably (use some lube if necessary). During the stimulation, your G-spot won’t be hit continuously, however, it’s super intense to have a vibe vibrating inside of you while you are walking or sitting in the restaurant. The vibration really takes your attention, you have to make great effort to control your movement so that other people won’t figure out what’s going on.
3.Couple Play with External Stimulation. You will mainly let the vibe stimulate your clit, but this time, you are not the one in control. Instead, your partner will hold the permission. A single touch from him can drive you to the edge of an orgasm. It’s extremely fun to receive all these unexpected vibration, in different strength levels. Very likely, you will reach the climax in public (I am experienced on that). So, make sure you hide your secrets well when the orgasm arrives ;).
4.Couple Play with Internal Stimulation. This is my favorite way to play! The idea of having an inserted egg in my vagina while going out is already exciting, not mentioning receiving unexpected stimulation. The excitement and the fear of being caught can drive you crazy. But it’s just so addicting to go back play like this again and again.
Of course, you can go out with more than one vibrator. I’ve tried that, but I don’t recommend that because the vibration noise from two toys can be a bit too loud and the fact the two vibrators are quite close to each other (one in the
What to Keep in Mind Before Going for a Public Play?
Test the Toy Before Going Out With It
Don’t go out with a vibrator that you’ve never use before. Try the vibrator at home first. It’s important to learn how to control the toy in advance. Most importantly, you should let your body feel the vibrator first. Is the vibration rumbly or buzzy? Is the vibrator comfortable to insert? Is it loud on the maximum speed. If it’s a toy controlled by Bluetooth, is the connection smooth? What is the control range for the Bluetooth?
It’s necessary to figure out all the basic things before you actually do public play with a certain toy. This will reduce the risk and chances to be embarrassed in public.
Choose a Location You Feel Comfortable With
Popular public-play locations include restaurants, grocery shops, cafe, theatres, malls, and bars. No matter which place you choose, it’s important to make sure it’s a place where you (and your partner) feel comfortable about. If it is your first time doing public play, it’s better to start from somewhere close. In case you start to feel uncomfortable, it can be easy and quick to fix.
Personally, I think restaurants are the best place to do the play. A sitting position can intensify the vibration feelings. The fact waiters can come at any time also make the play really exciting. You will need to eat elegantly and hold your vaginal muscle tightly – not that easy to do, but that’s what makes it exciting!
Besides, the restroom is nearby, you can easily take the vibe out in case something happens.
Lube Yourself Very Well
This point is extremely important if you plan to play with an insertable vibrator. Lube your vibrator well before you insert. Also, bring the lubricant with you. In case your body doesn’t react positively to public play, for example, you might not be able to get wet enough to actually enjoy the vibe inside of you. Lube can free you from the pain or uncomfort.
Besides, it’s important to be
How to Choose A Good Vibrator for Public Play?
There are three key points to keep it mind while choose a vibrator for public play.
1) It must be a quiet vibrator. More specifically, the highest noise level should be no more than 50db. Many toys claim to only produce low noise level, but they don’t! Don’t trust the sales page, test it yourself.
Turn on your TV in a normal volume and then turn on your vibrator to the maximum speed, can you hear the vibration? If you hear obvious buzz sound from a toy, then it definitely isn’t an ideal one for public play. If not, feel free to do all the naughty things you have in mind!
2) No matter for external or internal use, you must make sure the vibrator can stay at where it should be, aka. there should be no accident that your toy can slip out of your dress or your trouser leg.
For example, metal bullet vibrator is not
3) For wearable play, the vibrator you get must include a remote control. Some women go out wearing a vibrator that can only be controlled by the buttons on the toy itself. I’ve done something like that as well, thinking it was a sexy idea! Turned out it was a bad idea.
You never know what can happen outside, having a vibrator stimulating your most sensitive spot without a way to stop it not only has the risk to be
Six Best Remote Control Vibrators That are designed for Public Play
1. Lovense Lush 2
Lovense Lush 2 is my favorite public play toy. It is a powerful and internally wearable egg vibrator. This toy has everything you can ask for!
Lush 2 is made from premium silky silicone – the surface of this toy is super smooth against the skin. It is lightweight, rechargeable, seamlessly designed, and gives powerful vibrations.
Besides, Lovense Lush 2 enables app-control functions, which means you can control the vibrations remotely and there are versatile ways to do that, including voice control, music beats control, partners’ touch, etc. Thanks to the app-control, you can be as creative as you want for discreet public play and long distance play.
If you are interested to know more about the Lush 2, you can read my detailed review here.
- Strong, rumbly, yet silent vibration (maximum 45.5db).
- Comfortable to insert and it’s quite comfortable even if the toy stays inside of you for hours.
- Waterproof and easy to clean. You can also bring the toy to
swimmingpool for some special public play.
- Controllable from anywhere by the app, which means you can do public play with your partner even if he’s not close to you.
- Versatile ways of playing (vibration syncs with touch, music, sounds etc.).
- Outstanding customer service
- No storage pouch
- No lock function, which means the toy can be accidently turn on.
2. We-Vibe Sync
We-vibe Sync is a dual vibrator, which means it can stimulate your clit and your G-spot at the same time. This toy is designed to fit any body anatomy (Yes, it’s has a very flexible hinge). This toy is made from high-quality silicone and it’s also waterproof and rechargeable.
This vibrator can be controlled with an app at any distance and there’s numerous of vibration patterns that constantly keep you on the edge or aim to bring you orgasm repeatedly. Even on the highest setting, the noise level won’t go pass 50db, which is very ideal for public play.
If you are interested to know more about the We-vibe Sync, you can read my detailed review here.
- The hinge makes this toy very easy to adjust and it hence can fit for all anatomy
- Rumbly vibration, yet with a very subtle level
- It can be controlled from anywhere with an app
- Vibration on the G-spot arm can be stronger
- Noticeable G-spot arm during penetrative sex
- Minor Bluetooth connection issues
3. Fifty Shades of Grey Relentless Vibrator
I bought this toy to fulfill my fifty shades of fantasy and this vibrator didn’t disappoint me! Fifty Shades of Grey Relentless Vibrator has a very reliable remote performance as long as you are within the 10 meters range. It never failed me – works every time! Besides, it’s a rather quiet toy and delivers earth-shaking orgasms.
- Very stable remote control
- Good for vaginal and anal use
- Comfortable to insert
- Subtle vibration noise
- Vibration is not very strong
- Short battery life
Vibease is a Bluetooth controlled cute-looking bullet vibrator that you can easily carry in your purse. The vibrations can sync with music beats, any vocal sounds, and thousands of fantasy books. Most uniquely, this vibe can play a role as an AI lover. It responses to your needs by vocal cues.
It takes 2 hours to recharge the vibrator completely, it is water-resistant but you must avoid submerging it into the water. To see how it feels inside your vagina, you might want to slip it inside your panties the moment you touch the skin-soft silicone.
- AI lover is unique and responsive
- Sync with fantasy books
- Sync the vibration with music beats
- Control the toy from anywhere
- Quiet Vibration
- It has a rechargeable battery, which ensures you to have great intense vibration all the time
- Can’t walk with it
- Occasional disconnects
- No storage pouch
If you are interested to know more about the Vibease, you can read my detailed review here.
5. Lelo Mia 2
Lelo Mia 2 is a beautiful USB rechargeable lipstick bullet vibrator. This little lipstick is perfect for direct clitoral stimulation. And it’s very light and portable.
You can take it to anywhere and use it even in public thanks to its discreet buzz noise. You can even use it in the swimming pool or during shower time because it’s fully waterproof. It definitely is a pocket rocket!
These is no remote control for this toy. I mainly use this toy to release some tensions in the office – “Excuse me, I need to use the restroom.” 😉
If you are interested to know more about the Lelo Mia 2, you can read my detailed review here.
- Beautifully and discreetly designed
- Quiet to use (<50dB)
- Easy to use and clean
- Lock function, which means it won’t be
- Quick charge and long lasting battery
- Vibrations are not super strong
- Some people may not like hard plastic touch
6. Lelo Lily 2
Lelo Lily 2 is a portable and delicately scented vibrator. Yes, you heard me correctly! It’s scented, like a candle. Besides, it embraces strong vibration and a silky surface that ensures premium experience no matter for solo or partnered play. Lily 2 is also 100% waterproof and USB rechargeable, which means you can enjoy this little magical thing in any country, without worrying about voltage issues.
Besides, this is one of the strongest bullets vibe I’ve ever used, yet it’s super quite (maximum 50db). This toy also don’t come with a remote control, so, I never wear it to go outside. However, it has been my good friend for long flights. If you know what I mean ;).
If you are interested to know more about the Lelo Lily 2, you can read my detailed review here.
- Delicately scented
- Lock function
- Fully waterproof
- Light and very portable
- Low level of noise
- Long lasting battery
- Scent fade away after a few uses
- Hands can feel numb due to the strong vibration
“My boyfriend and I were both really excited to try the Lovense Lush. We did it and it was great! This toy has a remote control and I was mostly just using it as a vibrator. but after a little while, My boyfriend suggested we go out in public with it and have some fun experimenting. I put the vibrator in and we decided to go grocery shopping since it’s loud enough at the grocery store that the background noise cancels out any vibrating noises. Who knows grocery can be this fun ;)!”
“The first time we tried the We-vibe Sync in public. The battery in the controller died almost immediately after I turned it on at a restaurant (what a stupid mistake!). We were not demotivated, we tried it again the second day and it was OMG! I was so nervous and feeling the waiter might sense something is “wrong”. The fear and excitement got me super wet. I didn’t even order dessert that day. All I wanted is to go home and have sex with my husband.”
“My wife and I use a Lovense Lush when we go out on dates, and it is super fun. The first few times I buzzed her, she actually jumped and yelped, which was VERY hot. It’s a very fun control game, and I love that she gives me the power to stimulate her at will.”
“We have one of the internal “egg” shaped ones. My girlfriend wore it to go see a 2-hour long movie. She said it was nice but she couldn’t focus on the movie at all. So, we went home early that night, but I have no complaint about that!”
What to do if my girlfriend/boyfriend is too shy to do the public play?
Firstly, you must understand that it’s absolutely normal to feel too shy about public sex toy. Despite of the excitement, public play is out of many people’s comfort zone.
Ask your partner to try something in a small scale first. For example, you can wear a small vibrator, put on lowest speed and go for walk around your building
You can also take a bit alcohol to overcome the shyness. Don’t over-drink though, because you won’t want to lose control to your pelvic floor muscle.
How do I know whether my vibrator is quiet enough to be used for public play?
In general, a vibrator should be fine to use as long as its maximum noise level is lower than 50db. However, many toys claim to produce only 50db, but in reality is way louder than that. You can test it by leaving some music on while the vibration is on. If the noise is not noticeable this way, you are safe to go.
Verdict: Public Play – Addicting, Exciting and More
You must try it to understand how exciting it is to do public play! It’s totally a new level of sensation. Don’t let anything stop you to spice up your sex life!