Nipple Play & How to Have a Nipple Orgasm?

Nipple play can have a key role in arousal, foreplay, and sex.

However, most people aren’t even aware of the importance of stimulating it properly, not to mention reaching an orgasm simply by nipple stimulation.

In this article, I am going to share how I integrate nipple play into my sex life, different nipple play ideas, and how to successfully achieve nipple orgasm.

Why does Nipple Play Feel Good?

For many people, nipple play is a natural part of a sexual encounter, and women seem to enjoy it more than men. 

Before knowing how to stimulate the nipples, it’s important to understand why nipple stimulation feels good.

The nipples have a direct sensory line to the genitals, which is why you can sometimes feel the sensations of breast stimulation in sex make their way to your clitoris or penis. 

Our brain sends messages all over the body via the spinal cord in a fascinating, complex messenger system.

So, when you get that shiver down your spine as your lover runs their tongue over your tits, that's your brain and body having an intimate conversation.

Thanks to a high concentration of sensitive nerve endings, some body parts are more communicative than others. The nipples are one of these hot spots.

And yes, men can have sensitive nipples too! Some men are not used to or not comfortable with having their nipples played with, so they’re less accustomed to the sensations. 

Still, biologically, they’re wired for the same neurological response to nipple stimulation as women are. 

If you have inverted nipples, you can still enjoy nipple stimulation. In fact, it can be one way to help draw out the nipples if that's what you want to do.

How to Have a Nipple Orgasm?

Before getting into more details, I must point out that nipple orgasm is not something achievable all the time.

It many times depends on the moment, like how sensitive you feel that day, how your hormone responds that day, and how horny you are that day.  

But there are still some tricks to trigger nipple orgasm or at least to increase the success rate. Here are my suggestions. 

Where to Begin?

Start simply. Your fingers and mouth are the best ways to begin the journey into nipple stimulation. 

If using a hand, caressing, pulling, pinching, squeezing, and massaging the areola are the most enticing ways to stimulate the nipples. 

If using a mouth, licking, sucking, and biting can do the trick and most women enjoy this kind of sensation, either gently or roughly.

You can start by caressing and massaging your partner’s breasts or pecs, and the areas around the nipples, slowly getting closer to your goal.  

When you reach the nipples, start with a gentle hand. Try making light circular motions with your fingers. 

You can also lightly blow on, lick, and suck the nipples. Pay attention to your partner’s responses. 

You can also ask them if they would like more pressure, suction, etc.

Nipples are very sensitive and some people don’t want much more than light play applied to them. 

Others will enjoy stronger sensations that come from pinching, pulling, harder sucking, or even gentle biting. 

Sometimes, the intense feelings produced by nipple play can lead to orgasm, even without any genital contact. 

This phenomenon is relatively rare but not as uncommon as it may seem.

Your chances of experiencing a nipple orgasm increase when you are relaxed and turned on and have given yourself and/or your partner plenty of time to experiment and play. 

This is especially true if you haven’t incorporated a lot of nipple action into your sex before. 

Certain positions, actions, and circumstances help bring on that sought-after bodily release. 

For example, some people need their legs to be straight to orgasm, while others need to have their legs open.

You may need clit or testicle stimulation at a certain point to reach the big O, or you may need to back off for a few seconds before the build-up. All these are common examples, but habits vary.

It may take time to learn a new habit if you aren’t used to cumming through nipple play alone.

There’s also nothing wrong with adding your go-to orgasm ritual to your nipple play. Whatever feels good.

When it comes to nipples, small details can make a huge difference. I remember watching a Korean movie called “Parasite”.

One of the scenes shows foreplay. When the man started to massage her breast/nipple, she specifically asked him to do it clockwise. 

Yes, that’s how specific nipple play can get and everybody is different! You and/or your partner must take time to explore.

If you’re hoping to have a nipple orgasm, you may not achieve it on the first try - or even on subsequent tries - but you can already have a lot of fun practicing!

And shriving feeling from nipple stimulation can truly level up your libido. 

Adding Nipple Sex Toys to Level Up the Pleasure

Once you determine what level of sensation you or your partner likes, you can move on to using some toys in your play. 

For example, you can bring in a toothbrush-looing sex toy like the Lovense Hyphy. 

Its small head and extremely rumbly vibration are perfect for nipple manipulation. 

I like to use it with the round tip first, on the lowest setting. Apply it around the nipple first, putting it lightly to the skin, then gently touch it to the nipple itself for a second to determine how you or your partner responds. 

If feeling on board with it and want more, you can apply the toy for longer periods and on higher settings until you find the favorite patterns and sensations. 

Alternatively, if you want to venture into rougher territory, you can bring in Nipple Clamps. 

Gently place the clamps on your or your partner's nipples and adjust them slowly to the desired intensity level.

Take your time and allow the sensations to develop. Find where the comfort and pleasure level is, and if you want to take it up a notch, you can.

Nipple clamps can be worn during foreplay or sex to enhance the body’s responses to stimulation. 

If you want, you can attach a vibrator to the clamps, sending shocks of pleasure through the body. 

Suction increases blood flow to the nipples and can also enhance the feelings of nipple play.

A toy like the Fantasy For Her Pump Kit provides suction that draws the nipple and areola into the cup portion of the device, causing the nipple to temporarily become larger and more sensitive. 

Apply the toy to the desired area until you get the results you’re comfortable with, then enjoy the increased sensations as you tease the nipples with your tongue, fingers, or the soft licking action of the toy itself. 

Solo Sexual Nipple Play

The best place to start with nipple play is with yourself and it's also a good way to improve your nipple play techniques.

Teasing, pinching, and massaging your own nipples to arouse yourself will help you determine what kind of sensations you like. 

If you already know what lights your fire, some sex toys can take you deeper into your nipple exploration.

Satisfyer Endless Fun is a budget-friendly and an incredible all-in-one toy that will take you from nipple-teasing foreplay to mind-bending orgasm over and over again.

Or you can use a toy like the Lelo Sila, which simulates sucking and licking motions so you can feel like your nipples (and other sensitive areas) are being sucked by a loving partner, even when you’re on your own.

Partner Play, Communication & No Forced Nipple Play

As with yourself, it’s essential to explore and communicate with your partners about what feels good to you and to them. 

Nipple sensitivity varies from person to person, regardless of gender, breast size, or other factors. 

Some people love nipple stimulation, while others don’t get much out of it. 

Some folks are sent over the moon by a gentle touch on their nipples, while others enjoy the pain/pleasure overload of rough nipple play.

As with everything else sexual, nipple play preferences are very individual. 

That’s why communication is so vital in any sexual encounter.

Be open and honest with your partner about what you want and allow them to do the same.

Then, when you’re comfortable, introduce the added stimulation of some sex toys, especially sucking toys like LELO Sila, which can really heat things up. At least that's where my taste goes.

Kinky & Intense Nipple Play for BDSM Lovers

BDSM play can be another great way to explore sexual pleasure with a partner. 

Simple nipple clamps like the Entice Tiered Rose Gold clamps give a tiny pinch that feels great when a partner tugs on them, but they also temporarily reduce blood flow, increasing sensitivity when they’re removed.

However, for people who prefer to reach some levels of pain, it's better to get some hardcore tits toys like Adjustable C-Clamp. 

If you are experienced, you can also use commodities such as wooden clothespins and binder clips. 

Believe me, binder chips can really hurt. Unless you aren't looking for some real pain, don't touch on it. 

If you want a more holistic boob BDSM experience, you can either use bondage ropes or simply use big towel clips as a breast clip.

Electro sex toys can also level up your BDSM play. I really suggest trying Kinklab Neon Wand, one of my favorite gears when it comes electro play. 

When the electroshocks reach your breast and tits, the sensation is intense and incredible.

The lower settings deliver unique pleasure while the higher settings can become a real punishment, especially when it's applied to sensitive spots like the nipples.

If you are a couple who are experienced in whipping and whopping. Nipples and breasts can also be interesting targets. 

Floggers and paddles are the most ideal type of tools as they can aim at broader areas. 

If you or your dom are well-practiced, crops and canes can be more enticing as these gears can introduce shaper and more focused nipple hits. 

Try combining toys for multiple sensations, blowing your partner’s mind while you pleasure them orally, stimulating their nipples with a lick. You’ll have to peel them off the ceiling when you’re finished.

Remember, men can use these toys too. Try them out on your male partner’s nipples or testicles and see how they feel! 

Piercing & Nipple Orgasm

Is it more likely to reach nipple orgasm when the tits are pieces? Yes and No. 

Some people do report that their nipples got more sensitive after piercing. 

The tingling sensation makes them more likely to feel wet and turned on. Because of that, it's easier to have a nipple O.  

However, this doesn't apply to everybody and it tends to be less effective for males as well. 

If orgasm isn't the only goal, I do think piercing, especially piercing rings adds a lot more fun during sex.

Pulling a tit directly feels quite different from pulling the ring that has pierced through the nipple.  

For kinky lovers, it also adds new ways of play. You can attach weights to the rings, enjoy special nipple bondage, and many more.

If your nipple piercing is in metal, it can even level up the play with electro sex toys.  

All in all, piercing is an advanced way to better involve nipples and breasts for sexual stimulation. 

Just make sure it is actually something you want as the hole(s) will be on your body permanently. 

Nipple Play Confidence 

We all have insecurities about our bodies, and sometimes this can get in the way of us enjoying fun, hot, satisfying sex. 

Breasts are a common point of insecurity for women. Those who feel that their breasts are too small, too big, too saggy, etc., may let that lack of confidence hinder their enjoyment.

Some men have the same feelings about their chests and may feel insecure about having their shirts off. 

It’s essential to help ourselves and our partners feel secure, safe, and confident.  

Give plenty of honest compliments and use your actions to show that you love and appreciate your partner’s breasts/chest.

Practice self-care and speak words of love to yourself about your own body as well. 

You deserve to have good sex and confidence about the body you’re in!

Final Words

Nipple play can be a significant part of foreplay, sex, and solo play, no matter you are male, female, lesbian, gay or straight.

There are many ways and techniques to cash in on the sensitivity of your - or your partner’s - nipples to create mind-blowing sensations. 

Hopefully, this article provided you with some ideas and insights.