9 Best Remote Control Vibrators of 2023 & My Experience Using Them

Distance is no longer an issue! No matter you are looking for a short-range or a long-distance remote control sex toy to spice up your sex toy, this article will give you an answer. 

I personally don't like to bend my body in order to look for a button to adjust a sex toy, especially when it's already inserted. That's why I tend to prefer a remote controller that comes with a toy. 

I myself was also in a cross-country relationship for 5 years, I have to say when it comes to fueling a relationship that has distance challenges, an app controllable interactive sex toys are the best-kept-secret for perfect virtual sex life. 

Salute to the ever-evolving technology! 

After using more than 30 different models from all kinds of brands, I am quite experienced in either close-range or long-distance sex toys. 

Let me share my insights and experience with you. 

What Are Remote Control Vibrators?

For those of you who are totally new to this field, in short words, remote control vibrators are a type of sex toys that are controlled either by a remote or an app.

They are typically used by couples to heighten the sexual experience. The person in control of the remote can control the speed and intensity of the toy.

When there's a remote included, you or your partner can manage the control within the bedroom. Usually, there's a distance limit - around 3-5 meters (10-15 feet) for most remote controller. 

Instead of a physical remote, if a vibrator can be controlled by an App, then there's no distance limit and you or your partner can manage the control from anywhere in the world.

It means, while you and your lover are physically not together, your sex toy can give your imagination free rein and you could actually simulate everything from foreplay, orgasms to after play with your partner virtually.

This will make you instantly feel at the closest with your partner who is hundreds of or thousands of miles away.

Depending on the brands, some toys would offer extra functions such as syncing the vibration with voice, with music, with erotic audio books and so on. 

The right kind of sex toys could kill even the longest distance between two lovers in real time. 

In fact, they are the best go-to solution for those of you who are more adventurous.

So, I must say that when it comes to bridging the uncountable gap between you and your partner, a remote control sex toy is indeed a turn-key solution.

This kind of modern and somewhat futuristic adult equipment can change the game of sex dramatically – in a good way, of course.

Great, isn’t it? 

While there are too many options to get you spoilt for choices, only the high-end and endorsed materials could make your partners feel more safe, realistic and satisfied.

Here’s a list of sex toys that could bring a 360-degree change for your relationship.

The list vibrating clit toys, vibrating G-spot toys, vibrating butt plugs and more. 

My partner and I tested all of them. I like some toys more than others, but it is really based on personal preferences.

Feel free to select the one(s) that suit you the best! 

Top 6 Remote Control Sex Toys (Updated 2022)

1. Lovense Lush 3 (Score: 5/5): Best for Public Play

Lovense Lush 3 is my all time favorite!

This is a powerful and internally wearable egg vibrator that can be used to spice up bedroom sex or public naughtiness.

The toy is made from premium silky silicone – the surface of this toy is super smooth against the skin, which means you won’t feel uncomfortable even if wearing it for hours for naughty public play.

Lush 3 doesn't come with a seperate remote, however, you can down a free app and control it in versatile ways from anywhere!

The free app called “Lovense Remote”, which supports all the mainstream devices, including iPhone, iPad, Android phone/pad, Mac, and Windows PC.

After connecting your Lush 3 with the app, your partner can tease you or put you on the edge even you two are miles away from each other.

For example, he can control the vibration intensity with some touch on his phone or simply with his voice.

Other than that, it’s also possible to activate the vibration with your favorite songs and change the intensity according to the beats.

The vibration from Lush 3 is amazing! It’s strong, rumbly and really travels under the skin. 

I love the vibration so much that I also use this toy to stimulate my clit and an orgasm is promised when my clit is taken care of by Lush 3.

When it comes to discreet public play, Lush 3 is me and my bf's top choice.

We both have fantasies about public play and our favorite locations are restaurants, movie theatre, and Starbucks.

We've played our little naughty games for many times, especially when he’s physically far from me.

I have never been caught doing naughty things in public because the noise level from Lush 3 is really subtle even on the maximum vibration (43db).

As long as you don’t use the toy in a library, it's safe to go ;).

Pros:

• Rumbly and strong vibration 
  
• App and remote controllable
• Stable connection
• Wearable and good for hands-free play
• Best app in the market
• Very long battery life (up to 5 hours）
• 100% Waterproof
• Easy to use and to clean
• Compatible with most cam platforms

Cons:

• Nothing

2. We-Vibe Chorus (Score: 5/5): Best for Couple Play

We-Vibe is one of Canada’s largest adult toys’ manufacturer. It is a prestigious company that dedicates to creating innovative vibrator toys.

We-vibe created many toys that can be used with distance, but I personally think Chorus performs the best among all (Chorus is the updated version of the famous Sync).

The We-Vibe Chorus I am introducing today is an award-winning vibrator for both penetrative sex and solo masturbation.

Besides, it is a dual vibrator that is ergonomically designed to fit any body anatomy thanks to the flexible joints.

One amazing thing that differentiates this toy from Lush 3 is that it can be used to stimulate the clitoris and vagina separately or at the same time!

There is a separate remote controller included. Other than the 5-button surface, it also embraces a "squeezing control" feature, which means the tighter you squeeze it, the stronger vibrations get.

There's also a free We-Connect app that comes with the toy, which can be convenient for couples who are not in the same place. Pairing the toy to the app is quite intuitive and it works fine.

I personally use the physical controller a lot as it is more of a toy that assists a couple's penetrative sex.

But for long-distance couples, you can control the vibration and patterns through the app. It also has video and text chat functions.

The visual support really helps as it means you can hear and look at your partners during your intimate time. 

Sometimes, when my partner is not available, I use Chorus by myself and surprise myself by syncing the vibration with my favorite songs.

Yes, this toy also can vibrate based on the sound & music beats!

Other than that, Chorus also comes with a Real-Time Touch mode. This mode can make you and your partner feel closer than ever.

Every touch acted on the screen can be transferred instantly to the vibrator, at any distance! Which means your partner can keep you turned on at any distance ;).

Last but not the least, there are 5 color options for this toy and some of the colors are very unique.

For example, the pink and the dark blue has a shiny touch - absolutely beautiful!

Pros:

• Super Adjustable (270 degree)
• Versatile as it's good for both solo and couple use
• Unique remote controller
• Also app controllable
• Very good Vibration
• 100% Waterproof
• Relatively quiet especially when inserted

Cons:

• G-spot/vaginal arm's vibration isn't super strong
• There's a learning curve before mastering all the functions

3. Lifelike Lover Remote Control Dildo (Score: 5/5): Best for Hands-free Play

Lifelike Lover is a vibrating dildo with a realistic look and feel. 

Thanks to the lifelike penis head, the balls, and the shaft that is covered with veins, it guarantees you the most man-like experience possible. 

This toy also has a suction cup base that is designed to be used with a harness or hands-freely.

This specific model I recommend has a 5-inch insertable length and a girth of 5 inches. 

I enjoy this size as it fits as it is the most ideal for me. If you are looking for something bigger than this, feel free to check the 8-inch version. It has exactly the same functions, except that the insertable length is 6.5'' (16.5 cm).

The remote controller is very handy to use. You can switch among 10 different thrilling vibration modes (incl. 3 speeds and 7 patterns).

In case your partner wants to be a part of the game, the range of the controller is up to 30 feet. 

Note that is toy is made of phthalate-free soft plastic instead of silicone. 

The texture is amazing, but if your vaginal skin is very sensitive, there is a small risk of allergy. 

What I like the most about this dildo is its flexibility. The bouncy feeling it provides is top-notch, and it kind of adjusts itself inside when I am riding on it, doing some thrusting. 

Pros:

• Ultra realistic texture and feel
• Powerful vibration (10 levels)
• Suction cup base for hands-free play
• Harness compatible
• Two-size options for all levels of users
• Rechargeable
• Waterproof
• Affordable

Cons: 

• Battery life is not that long (90 mins to charge, then 60 mins to use)
• Better suit for women (G-spot) than men (P-spot)

4. Moxie (Score: 5/5): Best Remote Controllable Panty Vibe

5. Hush Vibrating Butt Plug (Score: 5/5): Best Unisex Butt Plug

Lovense Hush is NOT an ordinary remote-control toy, it's the most versatile one for both men and women. 

I didn't try any butt plugs before becoming a sex toy review blogger, but this profession did expand my range on toys.

So, I tried the 1.75-inch one and I forced my partner to try the 1.5-inch one haha.

Hush is an innovative vibrating butt plug from Lovense, the Hong Kong-based company that is renowned for manufacturing some of the most popular teledildonics.

This is one of the butt plugs, to my opinion. This is the only butt plug I still keep in my bedhead drawer.

As an amateur butt plug user, why do I like Hush? First, this toy provides amazing vibrations.

This not only helps to increase my sensation but also helps to relax the anal canal. So, it’s a very beginner-friendly toy.

As mentioned, there are two sizes you can choose from when ordering this toy.

One is 1.5 inches (3.8 cm) wide, which is better for beginners and I got this one as well.

Another one is 1.75 inches (4.5 cm) wide, which can be a bit more challenging if you’ve never used a butt plug before.

Like all the other remote controllable toys, Hush works best when being used with the Lovense App.

The app not only is a distance-free controller but also embraces plenty of features that can level up your sex life.

These features include real-time touch, customized vibration patterns, etc. 

The app also makes the Hush sound activated, and it responds especially well to music, varying intensity with the beats.

So, for some of you who want to venture into a new experience, Hush is one of the best remote control butt plugs of its type that money can buy.

Pros:

• Stable remote control via the app
• Very versatile ways thanks to the app
• Strong and intense vibration
• Fully waterproof
• Easy to clean

Cons:

• A bit noisy when operating in higher speed
• No storage pouch, so the black toy attracts dust easily

6. Lelo Hugo (Score: 4/5): Best Prostate Massager for All Levels

The Lelo Hugo is a uniquely-designed toy and can be used as a butt plug or a prostate massager.

It is made with high-end medical-grade silicone. It has a tapered head, making it easy to insert. 

Besides, it has a flared base, making it safe for anal use. It's also waterproof, so you can enjoy it in the bath or shower.

This toy comes with a separate remote controller. The round-shaped controller has a three-button controller interface and a range of about 20 feet.

You or your partner can use it to control the vibrations, the intensity, and the patterns of the vibrations. 

It's easy and intuitive to get a hand on the controller, even if you skip the manual. 

The prostate massager itself is USB rechargeable; however, the remote controller is AAA battery-powered.

Hugo is somewhat stronger than the Hush as it has two powerful motors embedded - one in the base, the other on the tip

Note that this is a medium-sized massager (104 x 107 x 41mm / 4.1 x 4.2 x 1.6 in.), which makes it good for all levels of users.

It is a perfect solo toy (esp. for male orgasm) and is also great for couples to share control of their pleasure.

The maximum noise level is around 50 dB - not the quietest toy, but decent enough.

Pros:

• Silky smooth silicone surface (easy to insert)
• Medium size for all users
• Flexible neck
• Amazingly strong vibration as there are two powerful motors
• Relatively long battery life (up to 2 hrs)
• Completely waterproof

Cons:

• Not a seamless design (aka. not magnetic charging system)
• Remote controller requires 2* AAA batteries (aka. not environmental friendly)

If you like the idea of Lelo Hugo, but are looking for a girthier prostate massager, I suggest you to check out Edge 2.

 You can also check my Hugo vs Edge 2 article to get a more complete understanding about these two models.

7. Tracey Cox Supersex Remote Control Strapless Strap-On (Score 4/5): Best for Pegging

Tracey Cox Supersex is one of the very few well-performing remote control Strap-On Vibrators in the market. 

It is a pegging toy designed to be worn by a woman and used on any gender.

The toy is made of high-quality latex-free and phthalate-free silicone in its entirety. 

The insertable length is around 6.5 inches (16.5 cm), which is decent enough for all-level players. The curved tip also helps to hit the G-spot in an intense way. 

The independent remote controller allows you to choose among 3 speeds and 7 patterns. The vibration is rather strong and it feels great on both sides.

There are many brilliant ways to use this toy. 

For example, the woman can put it inside of her, and lay on her back, while the partner rides on the top of her. 

Or one of you can take the "Forward from the knees" position, while the other penetrates and thrust either of the holes. 

The possibility is limitless, and this remote-control strapless strap-on is a perfect toy for couples who are looking for a little more excitement in the bedroom!

Pros:

• Strong vibrations 
• High-quality finish
• Intuitive remote control
• Waterproof & fully submersible 
• Ideal for straight and lesbian couples 
• Easy to clean
• Rather affordable esp. when on sale

Cons:

• If you get too wet, the toy may fall out
• Size may not fit all

8. Max 2 and Nora (Couple Set) (Score: 4.5/5)

Max 2 and Nora are the best mutually controllable remote couple toy set developed by Lovense. 

Max is a male masturbator while Nora is a female rabbit vibrator.

Both of the toys can be controlled with ease from a distance ensuring the couple can achieve orgasm at the same time without even being in the same room.

> Design & Look 

Nora is made of smooth medical-grade silicone and a length of about 5 inches (12.7 cm) which can be inserted. It is has a curved head for G spot stimulation and a flexible clitoris arm which allows both internal and external stimulation.

Nora arouses the female by a vibrating and rotating G-spot arm while stimulating the clit.

The stimulation is so intense that it sometimes can surpass the sensation from a real penis. Similarly, the stimulation from Max is also quite realistic.

Max has a skin sleeve which stimulates the penis through vibration and contraction for more pleasure and stimulated sex.

Max makes use of air pump technology which creates a mild, deep and subtle stimulation.

> Long Distance Control

Max 2 and Nora can be paired with the “Lovense Remote” app.

After connecting, you and your partner can choose different features separately for Nora and Max, which include: vibration patterns, intensities, rotation (for Nora), the strength of the air pump (for Max), sync vibration with any vocal sounds or songs, etc.

As mentioned at the beginning, it’s also possible to do dual-reaction when you and your partner use the set at the same time.

For example, when your partner is masturbating with Max, the Nora will react with rumbly vibration. This surely allows partners to maintain some level of intimacy even in long distance relationships.

I enjoyed Nora quite a lot. My partner did enjoy the soft texture from Max 2, but he found it’s not that easy to clean the machine after each use and he needed to use a generous amount of lube in order to start feeling good.

9. Kiiroo Onyx Plus and Pearl 2 (Couple Set) (Score: 4/5)

Kiiroo Onyx Plus and Pearl 2 are another popular couple set. Onyx + is a handheld automatic masturbator which is used by the male partner in long-distance sex.

This toy provides many different sensations which can be synchronized with online contents from FeelMe.com.

The previous Onyx had this capability as well but the new make contains much more for your viewing pleasure and is also compatible with video chatting.

> Design & Look

The Onyx Plus is made with a flashlight skin which is a lifelike masturbatory sleeve.

This toy has 10 rings which contract and it supposes to stimulate the feeling of sex.

Pearl 2 is G-spot vibrator that can leave your panting thanks to its strong and rumbly vibration.

Instead of clicking on buttons to activate this toy, Pearl 2 has touch-sensitive vibrations, which makes it ultra smooth to adjust and it’s perfectly modeled to stimulate all your hot spots for maximum pleasure.

> Ultimate Remote Control

The two toys can be connected using the FeelConnect app to start having long distance sex. Both Onyx+ and Pearl 2 can be activated by your lover, webcam stars, tactile videos, and VR.

Both my partner and I are fine with watching erotic movies, that’s why none of us were offended when getting this toy. 

But if you don’t encourage your man to masturbate with erotic movies, this is a good set for you then.

Anyhow, go back to the interactive functions this set has. So, when connected, Onyx+ will send a signal to pearl 2 to complete a two-way natural experience between partners.

The toy mimics your partner’s movements to provide an engaging and sexual experience for both of you.

Besides, every movement you make on Pearl 2 will cause your partners Onyx Plus to contract so they can feel you in real time making the experience intimate.

The biggest drawback about this toy is that my man said the stimulation from Onyx+  is a bit not on the point.

It’s not bad, but he said he preferred Max by Lovense.

From my side, I think Pearl 2 performed alright. The vibration is great, but the girth of the vibrator is narrower than what I used to use.

So, if you prefer a girthy penis inside of you, Pearl 2 might not be the best option for you.

How to Choose a Good Remote Control Vibrator?

The lust and demands from a relationship are now way different from what it was even a decade back.

So, when it’s your turn to make your guy/girl happy, keep no stones unturned.

My partner always like to choose a sultry and sensational gift that I can crave all seasons and remote control vibrators have the charm.

Let’s face it, nothing could be more important than a real orgasm for the spouses, especially if you are not physically in the same place.

In fact, virtual intercourse could play a real catalyst to keep your compatibility quotient steady with your partner.

However, picking a good remote sex toy from the palette might not be as easy as it sounds.

Also, each model packs quite a punch in terms of its larger-than-life features.

So, let’s look at the 6 following tips to help you shop smart…

1. Make your choice qualitative than quantitative. 

There are many competing brands offering myriads of accessories to help you play with your partner in real-time. But make sure to pick only what suits your sexual needs the best.

For example, if you and your love fantasize public play, a good choice would be the Lush 3;

However, if you two prefer to have some mutual stimulation, Max 2 & Nora would be a better option. So, it’s all up to your taste for the choice :).

If all you need is some extra spice in the bedroom, then short-range remote toys will be totally enough and they many times are more affordable.

2. Only look for sex toys that are pharmaceutical graded and patented.

Choose the toys that come with hypoallergenic substance or medical silicon-based material.

Since sex toys are something that direct contact your skin, it’s very important to make sure to avoid toxic materials, such as jelly products and toys that contain phthalates.

3. Don’t splurge to an epic buy and do a little market survey.

Good quality remote control toys, either for short-range or long distance control, tend to be a bit expensive, so make sure to choose your fun toy logically.

Overpaying for ordinary equipment would not only burn holes in your pocket but send your lovemaking spirits crashing.

It’s better to read some honest reviews before making your order. You can also access plenty of real comments from some of the biggest online retailer shops.

In this blog, I’ve written plenty of reviews on remote control toys as I am a big fan of this feature.

These toys include Ambi, Lush, Hush, Sync, Nova, Vibease, Wand, Melt and more. Feel free to read about them if you are interested.

4. Don’t fall for a bounty of features but give more priority to the product quality. 

To put it more simply, your toy might come packed with a gazillion of attractive features, including Bluetooth compatibility, quick response time, multiple connecting options, vibratory, speed controls, intelligent playback, smart interactivity, travel lock, advanced sensors, secure network platform, etc.

Think about it? Do you really need that much functions? If yes, Does the toy you choose actually live up to its promises?

Other than vibration strength, connection range and stability usually are the two most important things when it comes to remote-controlling vibrators. 

A physical controller usually is more stable than an app as it doesn't count on Internet speed. 

However, many controllers are not rechargeable. They are usually battery-powered, which is not environmentally friendly.

App control is a more advanced technology and it doesn't require added cost for extra batteries. However, it's a cross-brand issue that there are disconnection issues.

Many things can alter the connectivity and I wrote a dedicated post about it. Feel free to check the article.

5. A few words on the Bluetooth antenna technology of today’s sex toys: most of the long-distance toys nowadays requires using Bluetooth connection.

As mentioned, no matter which brand you use, there’re always some people who say that they incur issues on Bluetooth Connection.

I personally barely encountered any Bluetooth issues, maybe it’s because I use popular mobile devices.

Anyhow, it’s impossible to make your choice most perfect and flawless when so many options are available across the global marketplace.

Fear not, just pick your toy from a reputed brand and chances are more that your product will serve your purpose the best possible way.

And if there is still a Bluetooth issue in your sex gizmo, make sure you contact the customer care in no time.

Brands like We-vibe and Lovense have really good customer service and there will surely help solve any toy-related issues.

6. Finally, your pick should bring you the best bargain of a lifetime. Also, it must offer you everything needed to be playful, interactive and sex eager with your Bae.

So, look inside every feature, program, and accessory before a product finally catches your attention

Sex Game Ideas with Remote Control Vibrators

Now, that you have finally managed to get the best sex toy to surprise your long distance lover, be sure to go overboard with the best sex game ideas too.

After all, what better way to make the most of your sex toys?

Below is a list of some savory games to entice your partner to play most mischievous. 

Let’s discuss about them one by one…

1. Play it Intimate

If you have already found a cozy place to release your passion flow, let your partner join you in a virtual masturbating by co-playing it at the same time.

Make sure you both use your toys to feel each other’s orgasm and share a moment of sheer intimacy.

Lovense Max and Nora can be a great helper for this game because these two toys can interact with each other.

It’s like you two are actually with each other.

Lelo Hugo is my go-to bedroom toy as my man is into anal play and he likes to give the controller to me from time to time.

2. Sex Updates

Keep your partner posted on a brand new sex move you recently liked across the web or somewhere else.

And this is exactly the time to ask your lover pick up the toy, imitate the move and send you a video in real-time. Virtual reality porn gaming has never been easier.

3. Truth or Dare

Now, this is one vintage game you can play with your lover, no matter in the same room or thousands miles apart.

For example, ask your Bae to confess something about his/her sex life, unwind his/her secret sexual fantasies, or strip, quirk or do something naughty with their sex toys.

4. Down the Memory Lane

Your distant lover has never probably felt more aroused with this prank.

This sex game triggers memories of your intimate fun time and helps you recreate them together virtually.

Also, make no mistake, to ask your lover to use his/her favorite sex toy and share videos and photos to make more memories.

5. Guess the Body part

This one is the ultimate fun game. Here, you need to take close-up pictures of your sexy body parts and send them to your partner for a wild guess.

Don’t forget to offer rewards when your partner wins by playing his/her favorite moves with your sex toy.

And when the guesswork fails, just punish your partner by telling him/her to do what you want. The option is all yours.

Verdict: It’s Never Too Late to Include a Remote Control Toy

After years of experience, I confirm that remote controllable sex toys promise a life-changing experience for every millennial couple who face an insane amount of stress, challenges, and yearning of separation in their relationship.

And if you are the one who’s striving to improve the relationship, these next-gen, feel-good tools could not be a better solution. 

They can take care of your bespoke sexual needs and keep you posted on every seductive movement of your partner from miles afar.

So, pick one today and keep the fire burning :).