18 Best Strap-Ons for Lesbians: From Everyday Wear to Hardcore Play

Pegging and the world of harnesses and strap-ons are truly exciting for lesbian couples who are willing to take an adventurous pass for sex. 

It might take some time to find your favorite strap ons and your favorite positions, but once you and your partner get the hang of it, it's unbelievably fun and enticing.

There are tons of strap-on toys in the market and NOT all of them are ideal for lesbian couples.  

It's essential to invest in the best and most appropriate tools and toys to make your experience more pleasant.

Once you're confident of what you're looking for and the features you'd like, it's not hard to choose.

Here's an in-depth review of the strap-on sets, along with some harnesses and dildos that are fascinating to wear for lesbian couples .

The 7 Best Strap-on Sets (incl. Strapless Strap-Ons)

Some dildos and harnesses come as one complete set, and once you acquire it, then everything you need for pegging you'll find in there. 

Below are the selected sets and toys my friends and I love heartily.  

1. Desire Luxury Strapless Strap-On Dildo Vibrator: Takes care of two G-spots & one clit

• Insertable length for the wearer: 4.5 inches / 11.43cm
• Insertable length for the receiver: 5 inches / 12.7cm

This is a wearable, double-ended vibrating strapless strap-on that can bring joy to both you and your partner. 

It features a shorter bulb for massaging your G-spot meanwhile hitting her G-spot!

For more pleasure, there's a ridge at the dildo's base that rests against the clit, giving you a smooth vibration at the exact point you'd want it.

For me what matters the most is the vibration power and this toy doesn’t disappoint!

The vibration is strong for both G-spot shafts. There are 12 levels of intensity to choose from, which takes care of either gentle foreplay or rough penetration.

Also, there are 8 patterns of absolute waterproof fun, and you can even pop the vibrator out to play with without necessarily penetrating.

Did I mention it’s actually flexible, which means you can bend it into the right angle so that both you and your lover receive the stimulation at the right spots, leaving both of you well stimulated.!

While in play, your partner will receive a smooth, slim, and gently- curved shaft that makes the prostate or G-spot play a cinch.

The kit also features a rabbit ear that caresses the wearer's clit for some extra thrills. However, the vibration for the rabbit ear is not strong enough.

The wearer needs to have a strong pelvic muscle to fully put this toy in use. So, it might not be a beginner-friendly toy. 

But once you get a hang of it, it’s totally worth the effort!

2. Wet for her Double Dildo Vibrating Four: Finger-Like Intimate Play

• Insertable length for the wearer: 4.7 inches / 12cm
• Insertable length for the receiver: 5.9 inches/ 15cm

Wet for her is a low-key lesbian sex toy brand. My friend, who shops there often, recommended me this vibrating double dildo. 

This double-ended strap-on dildo is what every lesbian couple would dream of. 

The long G-spot shaft mimics the shape of two fingers and it sticks inside with each zealous thrust. 

I like that you don't need the hands for simulation with this toy, which allows face-to-face sex (aka. more emotional exchanges).

With the internal plug faultlessly angled, the dildo will reach your G-spot, showering you with endless pleasure. 

You'll enjoy excellent vibrations throughout the shaft, courtesy of a powerful high-speed rechargeable bullet that consistently sends them. 

With the right speed, these silent vibrations will no doubt whisk your lover to ecstasy.

I really like the fact that the bulb is slim, which is less intimidating and comfortable for long wear. 

But for those of you who like dildo in thick girth, this may not be a good option.

Personally, I think it works the best with an underwear harness because it gives better support and also makes the penetration more sturdily.

But if you have a strong pelvic, a harness is not that necessary.

3. Happy Rabbit Strap on Set: Quality set for naughty bedroom play

• Insertable Length: 5 inches / 12.7cm
• Total Length: 7 inches / 17.78cm

This is a set, including a powerful rabbit vibration and a high-quality adjustable harness. 

Happy Rabbit is a terrific dildo choice ideal for girls in need of vibration, courtesy of the set's strap-on play, enhanced clitoral stimulation, or a non-realistic harness. 

With the double-strap adjustable harness, you are free to explore orgasmic experiences from all angles and positions. 

Most vibrators come with 8 levels of intensity, this one has 15! Yes, you hear me right, it embraces 15 amazing levels of rumbly vibrations. 

Besides, It has a flexible, slim, and curved-at-the-end shaft that strokes the G-spot, leaving you craving more.

What's more, this shaft is anal-safe and can be used independently or in the harness.

Also, you can switch between the three o-rings the kit features.

The fabric harness is Vegan, designed such that you can comfortably and securely wear it while going out, which will allow your genital stimulation anytime.

It's a body-positive option, featuring an adjustable waist strap that fits up to 67". And since this silicone toy is waterproof, you can use water-based lubricants.

4. Pegasus Curved Realistic Harness Set: Vibrating Strap-on for ultimate pleasure

• Length: 6 inches / 15.24cm
• Insertable Length: 5.75 inches / 14.6cm

The Pegasus harness set is a multi-functional kit. It comes with a fabric harness you can adjust.

The harness expands up to 67 inches (170cm) and features a wireless vibrating dildo that can function from up to 30 feet away via remote control.

You can combine it with most harnesses, and its small base has a strong suction cup that'll support it steadily against most flat surfaces.

A pull-tab integrated on the harness's base allows for easy removal.

The kit consists of extra O-rings. Hence, you can easily swap out the dildo with one from your collection. 

In addition, the harness comes with a pouch, helping prevent displacement during use. 

You'll be thrilled to learn that the rumbly motor features a long-life battery capable of supporting up to 60 minutes of play. 

And to make the play sweeter, it features 15 different vibration patterns.

I haven’t used this set myself but heard plenty of good things about it from a few friends.

From the look, this Pegasus strap-on set looks no different from many other products, but I was told that it is attended to details – premium silicone, high-quality fabric, easy to adjust, and comfortable for long-wear.

5. Fetish Fantasy Hollow Squirting: Ejaculating dildo for a most realistic orgasm

• Harness Size (inches/meters): Up to 52/ 1.32 
• Dildo Insertable Length (inches/meters): 7.25/ 0.18 

Hellooo ladies who are into ejaculation! Don’t miss this Fetish Fantasy toy!

This hollow and squirting strap-on dildo provides you the sensation of an ejaculating penis.

And the experience is ultra-realistic thanks to the look and its premium soft texture.

It's made of sturdy PVC material and maintains its shape even when you don’t have a penis.

Some padding at the entry space rests against the pelvis, making the wearer more comfortable.

What's more, the shaft has a realistic veiny appearance like that of a fully erect penis, and the material has no give or squish.

Please note the dildo is not detachable - it comes permanently attached to the elastic harness. 

The thick elastic is rounded on the wearer's waist, while the two thinner ones come from the dildo's balls.

They pass between the wearer's legs and join at the back of the waist to snap in place.

This is the best strap-on hollow dildo available in different insertable lengths. And what's impressive about it is it can squirt up to 10 feet.

6. Body Extensions Be Naughty: Best for girth & fullness

The Body Extensions Be Naughty is another hollow strap-on kit that offers excellent vibration.

When women think hollow dildos are designed for men to feel more confident about their size. This is only partly true. 

When it comes to strap-ons, I am really in favor of the hollow option because they tend to be lighter. 

Hence, I can explore the girth while not compromising on the weight.

This Body Extension set comes with a set of three interchangeable dildos of varying shapes and sizes. 

The dildos are made of silky silicone, making them easy to clean and completely safe.

Although they're hollow inside, you can be sure they're firm enough to fit any gender.

Also, anybody who has erectile dysfunction can easily wear this strap-on.

Built into the base of the harness immediately below the dildo is a rechargeable bullet vibrator. 

The vibrator is remote-controlled and well-positioned to stimulate the testicles or clitoris of the wearer, filling them with incredible pleasure.

Another great thing about this kit is you can extract all three dildos from the harness and use them solo.

And did I mention the shape of the dildos is actually quite unique? 😉

7.  Lovehoney Advanced Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit: Budget choice for dual pleasure

The Lovehoney Strap-on kit is a pocket-friendly option with a silicone dildo and three interchangeable O-rings. 

It is designed not only for G-spots but also for anal pleasure.

The dildo's insertable length is 6 inches (15.24cm), and it weighs about 220g.

It's a true action hero crafted in silken silicone, making it relatively easy to clean.

Thanks to the sleek and smooth body with a defined head, it is an ideal choice for those new to the game.

Besides, the dildo comes with flared, suction cup bases, allowing for hands-free pleasure. 

What's more, with the three different o-ring sizes, you can freely interchange the dildo with any from the collection.

If you're operating on a low budget, there can be no better option than this kit.

The 6 Best Harnesses for Strap-on Sex

Harnesses come in different types based on the material used to make them and the design style, among other variations. 

If you're looking to invest in a strap-only harness, below are some of my favorites.

1. Spareparts Hardwear Unisex Joque Strap-On Harness: Premium quality for Premium experience

• Harness Size (inches/meters): 20-50-/ 0.50-1.27
• Compatiable-Dildo O-Ring Size (inches/meters): 1.25-2/ 0.03-0.05

The Spareparts Joque is a unisex strap-on harness. It's fully adjustable and fits snuggly against the wearer's skin, allowing a delicious intimacy and a practical penetration experience.

The harness consists of durable and breathable materials that offer extreme versatility and comfort. 

Created from poly-spandex and lined with soft and sensual mesh, this Joque strap-on provides you breathability for day-long use as underwear.

Its patented design adapts to your shape and size. The harness virtually becomes an "added second skin" that delivers great pleasure for both the wearer and receiver.

What's more, you can adjust the straps to fit around your bottom and thighs.

The waist strap is fully adjustable between 25 and 50 inches.

Further, the harness is compatible with a wide range of toys as it features a built-in stretchable elastic o-ring, stretching from 1.25 to 2 inches.

2. Betty Strap-on Harness: Vegan and Stylish

• Harness Size (inches/meters): 34-48/ 0.86-1.21
• Compatible-Dildo O-ring Size (inches/meters): 1.25-2/ 0.03-0.05

Yes, we women care about the look! This stylish pink-stripe strap-on harness is pretty and bratty. 

It's very comfortable and discreet enough to wear underneath your clothes so you and your lover can peg play anytime, anywhere.

The Betty strap-on is vegan and made of pure cotton – very ideal for fashion lovers who care about the environment.

Also, it's a fully adjustable harness that can accommodate almost any size of a harness-ready dildo.

While standard strap-on harnesses will limit the wearer, dildos with a flared base, the Velvet Nest harness doesn't.

And what's more, this strap-on accommodates dildos with balls too.

To use this fashionable harness, just insert the dildo via the front and secure it in the unique Velcro docking system. You require no o-rings.

3. Strap-on-me Desirous harness: Sexy and gorgeous look

What’s sexier than an elegant leather harness?

Meet the Desirous Strap-on-me Harness - a beautiful vegan harness that will rock your world with its mind-blowing design! Trust me, you won't be disappointed with its simplicity and comfort of use. 

The padded strap at the back? A total game-changer! It creates more comfort and you can adjust the straps at both the front and the thighs to get the perfect fit. This harness fits people with hip size that ranges from 32'' - 40" (81- 112 cm).

Besides, the dildo is positioned directly on your skin for maximum sensations!

I must point out that to clean this strap-on, you need to wipe it off using a leather cleaner or specialty leather wipe.

Then, you can towel dry it to clear any liquid left behind.

Note: Strap-on-me is also a good brand to explore if you are into lace harness. There are not as sturdy as leather options, but are very soft and sexy to put.

4. Boxer Brief Black O-ring: Best Shorts/Boxer harness for a firm thrust

• Harness Size (inches/meters): 27-52/0.68-1.32 

This Boxer harness is designed especially for women and lesbian couples, and it offers unmatched value for your money. 

It's the best and most comfortable harness in its class. This new generation of the harness is a pullover, just like a conventional boxer or pantie.

It is discreet enough to wear on any occasion so that you can have peg immediately, pack, or strap-on play at any time.

All you need to do is slip a dildo into the stylish, comfortable briefs and let the play begin.

I love its androgynous design and that it can easily host any sex toy of your choice in the o-ring. 

Also, it's made of soft fabrics, and you can wear it as underwear all day long and night.

Therefore, you can be ready for packing and playing at any moment.

What's more, it's compatible with almost all strap-on dildos and double dildos, apart from the Fusion dildo.

If you're a beginner, the Box brief harness is the ideal starter harness for you. Discover all the pleasures of a strap-on that is ready for play in a snap.

5. Sportsheets Strap-On: Best thigh harness for adventrous players

• Harness Dimensions (inches/meters): 6 x 2 x 12/ 0.15 0.05 x 0.30
• Compatible-Dildo O-Ring Size (inches/meters): 1.25/0.03

This thigh strap-on takes your bedroom play to an unexpected, exciting level by letting you affix the dildo to your leg.

Subsequently, this gives your hands new naughty capabilities as your lover grinds on your added appendage.

Simply slide your favorite dildo into the o-ring and wrap the harness around the thigh part of your leg.  

You can bounce your leg up and down or still relax and enjoy as your partner mourns out of pleasure as she gyrates.

For lengthy vigorous play sessions, the secure velcro closure and soft neoprene inner lining of the strap-on ensure a comfortable and snug fit during such times.

The strap-on is adjustable to fit the size of your thigh and is machine washable too.

6. Lovehoney Unisex Crotchless Open-Back Lace Harness Briefs: Sexy and enticing

• Harness Size (inches/meters): 27-52/0.68-1.32 
• Compatible-Dildo Circumference Size (inches/meters): 4.75/0.12

As you looking for easy access for both front and back? These flirty harness briefs are excellent for exploring sensual strap-on adventures.

They're crotch-less, featuring an open back that eases access and enhances mutual pleasure. Suspenders are the only straps you'll find on these.

While the elastic waist provides utmost comfort, the lace panels align the briefs' sides giving you a flirty feel.

Since these briefs are comfortable, non-intimidating, and cute, they're the ideal accessory for strap-on peggers, beginners, fashionistas, and packers too. 

They also work well with dildos, and with their 4.75-inch (12cm) circumference and Through and through o-ring design, you can wear them with a strapless strap-on. What's more, they're also great for plus size.

The 5 Best Dildos for Strap-on Sex

With hundreds of dildos in the market, getting the best fit for your strap-on experience can be challenging.

Not all dildos are good enough for an amazing strap-on session, that’s why I picked 5 of my favorites, hoping it can give you some insights. 

1. Randy: Short & Girthy

• Dildo Size: 6.5 Inch/0.16 Meter
• Dildo Diameter (inches/meters): 2.15/0.05

Probably it’s just me, but I love to name my sex toys. When I saw this dildo, I have a feeling – this is THE RANDY! 

Randy is a nice wide toy of considerable length. This silicone dildo is ideal for all girth queens as they can now get full satisfaction.

It features an insertable length of 6 inches and a diameter of 2.15 inches (5.5cm) and a somewhat realistic design, with a line roundness that is nothing short of friendly.

Randy is sure to put a smile on your face with its harness-able concave base that offers a firm suction cup holder to allow you to stick it and enjoy the play. 

What's more, the dildo is anal-safe and comes with a lifetime warranty.

2. Fusion Purple: Best lesbian strap-on dildos for Dual Pleasure

This Wet-For-Her Fusion dildo is amazingly comfortable, no matter you are the wearer or the receiver.

It has the best texture and the exact firmness you would want from a high-quality strap-on dildo

Unlike other unisex dildos, Fusion is designed for lesbian couples. 

The tapered base has a unique curve and pattern and it is designed for strap play features a unique ergonomic base that lets the wearer receive clitoral stimulation during play.

I really like that the dildo is non-realistic in style, which means it a lot less intimidating. 

Besides, it’s made of pure medical-grade silicone that's phthalates-free, giving it a silky soft feeling and makes it body-safe.

If you use a bullet vibe in the panties or harness while using the Fusion, you can feel the vibrations from the Fusion's base to tip, which enhances the pleasurable sensation during play. 

It's 5.7 inches (14.5cm) long, although you can get it in various sizes and colors (purple, black, and pink).

Fusion is compatible with both water-based and hybrid lubricants.

3. Vixen Mustang VixSkin Suction Cup Dildo: Best realistic strap-on dildo

This Dual-density kaleidoscope cock that's Mustang by nature and rainbow by looks is the type of dildo to liven up your toy box. 

It combines ultra-realistic simulation with an amazingly artificial tie-dye colorway.

Made from super-lifelike VixsSkin material, this is a dildo that many dildo lovers will likely adore.

The Mustang consists of a solid core surrounded by an outer surface and a finish that feels like a real penis. 

It also has a curved shaft and pronounced shaft to enhance your P-spot or G-spot stimulation.

What's more, its flared base makes its harness compatible with pegging and strap-on sex.

Another fantastic quality of the Mustang is its VixSkin is temperature-sensitive, further enhancing real-feel pleasure.

Just like real unicorns, you can choose a Mustang of your preferred color and pattern.

Just make sure always to remember to lube it well for super slick penetrating fun.

Vixen Mustang is my go-to brand when purchasing dildos because all its dildos (at the 6 of them I tried) are of top quality. 

After using their products, I start to understand why they have a higher price tag than many other dildo brands.

4. Lifelike Lover Classic Realistic Dildo: Budget-friendly & Decent Quality

With the Lifelike Lover Classic Dildo, you can enjoy most erotic plays at a pocket-friendly price. 

It's firm and permanently flexible yet easy to bend. This veiny and full-bodied cock features a base with a suction cup, making it ideal for hands-free use.

Whether you feel like bending it or shaping it, with this dildo you can do whatever you fancy the most.

Hold it at the angle that delivers the best stimulation for both internal and G-spot, making full use of the suction base.

You can also apply a harness for some strap-on play.

5. Strap-on Dildo dilators Set-of-5-pieces: Size for all needs

Are you and your partner looking for different sizes? Are you thinking about stretching your holes?

It's impossible to resist this candy-colored deluxe silicone dilator set, which comes in handy in offsetting discomfort or tightness during vaginal penetration. 

It features five graduated dilators designed to stretch gradually and train the vaginal muscles and gently.

In each dilator, there's a tapered tip for comfort. The dilators are compatible with most of the harnesses.

They come in different insertable sizes and widths, allowing you to choose the size that goes well with you.

All the pieces are built using medical-grade silicone, making the dilators completely body-safe and easy to clean.

These materials are responsible for the silky, smooth texture of the dilators, and they quickly warm up to body temperature, enhancing the real-like feeling during play.

If you choose to use a strap-on dildo as part of the strap-on play, ensure to use a stabilizer bearing the smallest size to create stability.

How Do Strap-ons Work?

A basic strap-on only requires a dildo and harness that it fits into for it to work. 

Harnesses are built with stretchy material that fits around a dildo’s flared base, and most harnesses have an O-ring that’s either permanent or swappable. 

You should fit the elastic O-ring snuggly around your dildo. And if your dildo collection features different sizes, it’s a good idea to have several o-rings.

For harnesses with permanent O-rings, you’re limited to one dildo size that fits into the O-ring without slipping out.

Harnesses come in three primary styles:

Jockstrap-style

This harness version resembles a classic jockstrap. It has straps that go around the waist and over each butt cheek. 

An example of a jockstrap harness is the Spareparts Hardwear Unisex Joque Strap-On Harness.

Thong-style

As the name suggests, this harness resembles a thong. It has a strap that goes around the waist and another that runs from between the legs and the butt cheeks to the back. 

An example of a thong-style harness is the Betty Strap-on Harness.

Underwear-style

This version looks a lot like a pair of boxers or underwear. You can wear this harness like underwear. 

The Boxer Brief Black O-ring and Lovehoney Unisex Strap-On Harness Briefs are excellent examples of underwear-style harnesses.

How to Use Strap-ons during Lesbian Sex?

I talked with multiple lesbian friends to get their insights regarding how strap-on works for lesbian couples. 

One of them told me this, “When I first used the Vixen Mustang VixSkin Dildo (the 7.5 Inch one), I thought using it was straightforward, only to learn some tricks and tips to maximize safety and take full advantage of the toy.”

So, I guess it’s not hard to get a hang of strap-on toys as long as you get the right product.

She added, “It may seem impossible, but most positions use for vaginal penetration are the same as anal penetration positions.

This is so especially if your dildo is long enough, at least with a 6-inch insertable length, in my opinion.”

Another friend shared more detailed tips regarding positioning.

She said, “you can perform a modified missionary-style where you or your partner raise the legs with the knees bent towards the chest.

Any other position where your partner bends over also works perfectly, including doggy or with the receiver is leaning over a piece of appliance or furniture.”

Whether you're using it solo or with your partner, dildos make a fun addition to any sex life.

The Importance of Lube for a Smooth Strap-on Play

Lube makes it easier for anything entering your body during sex as it enables it to slide in more easily, making penetration and the overall play more enjoyable.

Opt for a lube that’s compatible with your dildo and the condoms you use with it.

For example, you CAN'T use silicone-based lubes with silicone toys, such as the Randy, as doing so would ruin the material. 

If you apply condoms on the dildo, please note that oil-based lubes can degrade condoms, making them ineffective.

It is crucial to get the best lube for your dildo to guarantees smooth and pleasant penetration.

The Clean-up

Dildos come into contact with fecal material and bacteria, so you should thoroughly wipe down your toy with soap and warm water after each use.

This is vital for preventing infections.

You could also toss it into boiling water but note you can only do this with dildos that have no motor.

For nylon straps, you can machine-wash them, but ensure to read the cleaning instructions beforehand.

If you have a leather harness, such as the Lace and Corset harness, a bit of soap and water is sufficient.

Final Words

Those are all the strap-on I truly recommended based on my friends' and my personal experiences. Some of them are beginner friendly, others are more for advanced players.

However, I am aware that some of you are more into kinky play when it comes to strap-on toys.

So, if you are interested in more BDSM-oriented strap-on toys such as head harness, feet harness, and electric dildos. 

Check out the Stockroom, which is a dedicated online shop that sells premium quality hardcore kinky toys! 

I haven’t yet tried any of the kinky strap-ons, but would love to know your opinions if you’ve got a chance to test any of these toys ;).